The dog days are over. The dog days are done. The horses are coming so you better run.Dog Days Are Over – Florence + the Machine
After the crazy kraken from the sea party, I vowed to myself to always have an exit plan. Unfortunately, my exit plan involved driving home drunk myself or letting another drunk person drive me home. Rarely, did I ever get an Uber or cab (expensive) or call someone sober to come get me.
My exit plan then and now is drastically different:
- My new favorite word is no. Before I even have to develop a strategy for leaving an event, I have and always had the choice to decide whether or not I even want to go. The freedom!! The power!! The ability to make choices!!
- If I go, I decide when to draw the line at enough is enough for myself. Sometimes, that line arrives quickly, depending on if and how much alcohol is involved. My patience for drunk people is quite low. How ironic. Believe me, no one is attractive at gremlin hour – the point where a few drinks turn into too many and people start slurring their words, swaying, and repeating themselves. Other times it’s so far away that it takes quite a while for me to reach it because I am enjoying myself. But the beauty of it is that I decide when I’m done and ready to leave. Again, more freedom!!
- I CAN DRIVE MYSELF HOME WHEREVER I WANT WITHOUT THE PARANOIA OF BEING PULLED OVER OR GETTING INTO AN ACCIDENT!! The magic word again is freedom!!
I write that part in all caps because I never truly understood how amazing it is to feel that way. Now my exit strategy is ME! There is no more hassal, worry, judgement, fear, lying, or manipulation. Now, there is relief, freedom (my second new favorite word), empowerment, and control and all of that is not purely limited to being able to drive my sober self home from an event. It applies to so much more than that – to life sober. Every single aspect of my life is more free and more empowering. I am in control and that is a beautiful feeling. I created an exit plan to release myself from the complications alcohol provided me with. That exit plan is sobriety. And now? I am my own exit plan.